This Is On Us

White people. This is on us.
White men. This is especially on us.

Every time we don't speak up over a racist remark because we don't want to "ruin" Christmas.
Every time we don't push back on sexist behavior because "it was just a joke".
Every time we equate being gay, transgender, or a woman with weakness.
Every time we assume being black, latino, or asian means being less capable.
Every time we use someone else’s identity in a derogatory way and excuse it with “it wasn’t meant to be mean”.
Every time we don't believe a rape victim because "she's just doing it for the attention".
Every time we are more concerned about the reputation of the perpetrator than the wellbeing of the victim.
Every time we tell our boys that "men don't cry".
Every time we tell our girls to be “pretty” or “supportive”.
Every time we invoke meritocracy and not acknowledge structural problems.
Every time we pretend that racism, misogyny, and bigotry are binary choices and not curves we’re all on.
Every time we get defensive about our conduct by saying “all lives matter”, “not all men”, “I’m just joking”, or simply “I’m a good guy”.

White people. This is on us.

We embolden hate. We marginalize. We oppress. This is us. We did this. Not just the US election. Brexit. Marine Le Pen. AFD. The refugee crisis. The Alt-Right. Gamergate. Online harassment.

White people. This is on us.

It is on us to fix our behavior.
It is on us to reflect about the choices we make.
It is on us to think about what messages we send with our words.
It is on us to think about what we do with our our actions.
It is on us to think about how we hurt everyone because we feel our unearned privileges eroding.
It is on us to become kinder, more inclusive people.
It is on us to reject white supremacy.
It is on us to reject sexism.
It is on us to reject bigotry.
It is on us to reject hate.

White people. This is on us.